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Support – For Friends/Family

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Tips for Talking & Listening to Survivors/Victims
  • Give the survivor control. Allow the survivor/victim to make decisions about what steps to take next.
  • Maintain confidentiality when possible. Explain that information will be needed to be shared for campus safety, but you will do your best to limit that information to only those who have a true need to know.
  • Let the survivor express feelings. Remember the survivor/victim is venting emotions toward the perpetrator and the situation – not you.
  • Listen to the survivor. Do not add your opinions. If the person wishes to remain silent, do not force a discussion.
    • Thank you for trusting me with this important conversation.
    • I believe you, you did not deserve this.
    • How can I help, I can refer you to someone that can help
    • Avoid blaming questions and comments: ‘Why’ questions about choices
  • After the survivor leaves, consider talking with the VAV program to express your own emotions about the meeting.